Marriage is a human right, not a heterosexual privilege’
I’ve really been thinking lately about where I want to take my blog and what I want to write about. I feel like a lot of the time I talk about my life and myself (lol) and although I do enjoy that I feel like there is a lot of stuff that I’ve learned/am learning/want to learn that is actually really interesting. I’m also a strong minded person with a lot of opinions and I want to talk about the things I’m passionate about. So I guess what I’m saying is, I’m giving my blog a maturity make over.
For my first post like this, I really want to talk about homosexuality and gay rights. This is a subject I am so passionate about and feel so strongly on. I remember when I was about 15 I wrote an essay all about the subject and I was so proud of it. It wasn’t much time before that essay that I actually became aware of any sort of ‘normal’ when it came to who you were attracted to. Before I fully get into my post, I wanted to stress that I am not an expert and these are my personal opinions (that everyone is entitled to). Just because someone is straight does not mean that they can’t have an opinion on a subject like this. That’s like saying ‘you can’t have an opinion on animal rights because you’re human’. Yep, I know.
I went to a Christian school. I do not consider myself a religious person, however there are parts of Christianity I relate to, and parts I categorically do not. I do have to stress, I loved my school and I cannot say that there was a lot of open judgement when it came to LBQT+ topics. But I also feel like they just weren’t mentioned. One of my only memories of gay rights discussions was in an RMPS class. The teacher, who I had a lot of respect for, was known for strong opinions when it came to the subject of same sex attraction. The teacher started the class by mentioning the legalising of gay marriage and how the Catholic Church had come out and said they would not perform same sex marriages in their churches. I was positive the conversation was going down the ‘how ridiculous and small minded’ route, so imagine my surprise when the next sentence was ‘and I have to stand up and applaud them’. Marriage is a HUMAN RIGHT, not a heterosexual privilege.
I grew up in a society where there was a right and a wrong, gay or straight and we all knew what the ‘normal’ was. What is normal? Putting people in boxes? Obsessing over what everyone else does behind closed doors? Judging someone on a part of them that makes them who they are? If that’s normal, I don’t want to be it honestly. I’m incredibly lucky with my parents, who are very open minded and supportive and I’m positive wouldn’t even blink if one of my siblings or I came out. Speaking of ‘coming out,’ I watched the film ‘Love, Simon’ recently and something he said really rang true. Why is it only gay people that have to come out? Why do we assume that it’s the different one? It’s something we all do, I would assume someone to be straight unless made obvious they weren’t. It’s not good. We shouldn’t assume things about people- it’s learning everyone’s unique traits that makes us individuals.
Being gay, bi, straight or anything else, who the hell cares? So long as people are nice to you why would it matter who they love? And that’s it at the end of the day. You can’t choose who you love. So why give anyone grief over it?
I’m not claiming to be the most educated person on the topic but it’s a topic that I find to be very relevant in today’s society and I wanted to speak about it. I also want to make it clear that these are my opinions, that I have cultivated from my experiences and research over the years. I’m not forcing them on to you, just writing about what is important to me. I just feel like we should all concentrate on our own happiness and development, rather than worrying about everyone else and what they are doing.
If anyone wants to have a MATURE conversation on this subject or ask me any questions feel free to leave them in the comments.
Thank you for reading.